What is Your Highest Value?

Failure is guaranteed to manifest itself if you neglect proper time management. If you don’t dedicate yourself to the things that matter now and in the future in a harmonious way, that failure is guaranteed. So if you have a fear of failure then you need to improve your time management or at least consider it. 

The reaction that happens when someone who has never conceptualized fear of success before is noteworthy. Why would someone fear success? Success comes with responsibility. It comes back to looking out for your success. It requires you to trade time, attention and energy into managing success. 

Some people are afraid that they will not be able to handle the stress, pressure and work load of maintaining success. Whatever that means to them. It usually works out in the following equation. “I say I want X, but I do Y – which actually satisfies Z = real desire.” 

There is usually a secret bargain that is made at least there is for people who have fear of success. 

Getting in touch with your core values structure help you ensure that you are in alignment with your personal values structure and as a result your Self Actualization or Success. 

The most primal fear. What are we if we have nothing left to lose? Imagine what that would be like? What’s the last thing you would want to lose? Your fear? Your human dignity? It’s a powerful question that drives how the individual functions in the world. Every loss is one step closer to whatever it is we most fear. 

As George Costanza one said, “my whole life is an adjustment to loss.” We lose when we are attached. Attachment leads to suffering. So if you’re going to be attached to something, make sure it’s worth suffering for. Since suffering is inevitable at least serve a noble cause through your suffering. Serve something that at least means something to you. 

You are being judged. You are always being judged. The world, the external is always making assumptions about you. This is part of the duality of the internal vs external world view. Accepting the feedback of others can be useful. It can be a good tool to help you better address reality. Accepting feedback from people who you admire and respect even better, as this allows you to align yourself better with who you want to be. We all have trouble seeing our own gaps, our own flaws. If we saw them clearly maybe they would cease to be flaws? So the very fact they exist means we show at least some ignorance to them. This is the importance of feedback.

The fear of being judged is the fear of unwanted feedback that disrupts your values system. It challenges the core of your reality. It is the opposite of what you wish the external world to look like. 

The fear of being judged is hard to get over if you judge yourself harshly. If you have guilt. Guilt is a primary driver of fear of judgement. Guilt occurs for a variety of reasons but largely is useless. Remorse, repentance, atonement have value but guilt alone. Guilt serves very little, yet it drives this fear. 

The primary way to eliminate guilt is to not let it define you. This can be done by taking control of your time and attention. What guilt represents cannot manifest if you control your time and attention. 

This is a continuation in the fear of loss. The loss of the self. The loss of the “I am” drives this fear. It touches on the fear of death or ego death. Losing what we know and believe about ourselves. It can also occur in how we spend our time and attention if we spend our days in unfulfilling ways and spend our thoughts thinking of other things except whats here in front of us we are losing ourselves as we are not respecting what we value most – as defined by us. 

See how loss is a big one? We lose control when we cease to be able to understand or control our reality or ourselves. 

Controlling reality is a basic contract. I do these things and expect those to happen. The tighter this relationship the more attuned to reality you are, the more predictable your reality becomes the more mastery you have over it. When reality unexpectedly does not behave how you planned – that is, the unexpected happens. This is a loss of control. When we discover something new about ourselves or make changes in how we chose to address and believe in reality is this also a loss of control. We are putting our faith into something – a new contract. A loss of control is necessary in order to grow. It is an experimentation of the self. Letting go of what is and allowing what will to exist. You can always go back to what is, but you can never go to what will be without first going there mentally. You will certainly not get there without making some changes. 

Change is the only constant in life. It measures the passage of time. Change is inevitable. Yet, change management or even the paying serious attention to change are often a passing, after thought. Being prepared and aware of change means being prepared for the now. If you are understanding whats happening right in front of you then you can see immediately when change begins to happen. The awareness we have in our present moment defines our perception of what possibilities all simultaneously exist. 

Being prepared over time for all changes simply requires paying a little attention every so often. 

A lot of The Reboot program focuses on the nature and concept of time. It is another dimension of existence and the closest one we can generally conceive of. Notions of alternate realities and universes mean very little if we don’t understand time correctly. 

The fear of time can come from a lack of acceptance of the self through time. 

I don’t like who I was. 

I don’t like who I am. 

I don’t like who I am becoming or will be. 

An alignment of the self through time is helpful in eliminating the fear of time. 

Accepting the past. Paying attention to the present and being accountable to oneself. Planning for the future.

It comes back to a protocol of time management. 

Again the fear of the self. This is beyond the Personal Truth, this is who I Actually Am. 

We all have elements of who we are that we don’t like, it’s normal. We also have elements of ourselves that we do like. Focusing on the eliminates of ourselves we don’t like means addressing them over time right here and now. It requires present moment decision making. What we don’t like is a representation of a value we dislike, we are in misalignment with our own moral code, ethics and values structure. This is the fear of who I Really Am. It’s at the root, its a lack of awareness and acceptance of self. 

Who you really are is how you spend your time and attention. What you do over time and the energy and focus you give it is who you really are? So it’s very easy to tell if you have this fear if you know what you first care about then look at what you do and how you think. 

Fear of the Unknown.

This is the most fun fear. Growth occurs outside your comfort zone. Entering the unknown or the new is a risk. With risk there can be reward but there are also consequences. So it’s a gamble. Yet we always have to decide between the familiar or routine or the normal and something different, something new. 

Understanding how you spend your time and where you are directing your focus gives you a slight advantage when entering the unknown. 

The list of fears people have is endless and personally unique. Each one of us is confronting our fears at some point. Preparing for them or looking at them through a structure of time management can help create…

A world where you are who you want to be, doing what you want to do and doing the best you can under external circumstances. 

The Reboot has helped. 

• Companies grow
• Parents 
• Students
• Management
• Entrepreneurs 

Then it’s easy to see if The Reboot program fits for you or not.